Blank Page Syndrome

The beginning of a new project is terrifying. I imagine there are creative people out there who love the start of something new, who revel in the potential of a blank canvas or an empty notebook.

I am not one of those people.

The vast expanse of an empty word document paralyzes me. I can (and have) sat staring at an empty page for great swaths of time, afraid to take the leap from imagination to reality.Read More »


Excerpts from my DFWCon 2018 Journaling

Saturday night:

“I accidentally pitched a story idea and the agent didn’t immediately tell me it was a terrible idea. In fact, she said something that made me realize I’ve been thinking about my story all wrong. I’ve been worrying about what parents and adults will think when what I should be thinking about is what teenagers will think. So suddenly the time I spent on [the story] doesn’t feel like a waste of time. It seems like something that could have a market if I ever actually wrote it.”Read More »

Repost: Newbie Guide to the DFW Writers’ Conference

I initially published this on May 24, 2016 on a blog I shared with some fellow writers, The Missing Comma Club. Since DFWCon is less than a month away and I’m SUPER excited, I figured I’d repost.

I attended the DFW Writers’ Conference over the weekend of April 23-24. Having never gone to a writing conference (or a gathering of more than ten writers at a time), I was nervous. Not only did I survive my foray into the world of other writers, I came out with a number of new friends, a wealth of new knowledge, and an addiction to surrounding myself with the people of “my tribe”. Here are a few things I wish I had known in advance and which I plan to remember for the future.Read More »

April Goal Review

I am one third of the way into my very unofficial goal of writing every day this year. We’re already more than a week into May and I still haven’t written up my review of April. I’d feel bad about that, but it is all for good reasons AND I’m meeting my writing goals, so I’m just going to let that go.

Here are the stats for 2018 so far:

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I Am Not A Toy

“Stand before the people you fear and speak your mind – even if your voice shakes. When you least expect it, someone may actually listen to what you have to say.”

Maggie Kuhn

I wear my heart on my sleeve. I say what I mean. I have no poker face, and I have worked hard to develop the courage to stand up against injustices when I see them. This makes me a target for a particular type of conversation.Read More »

The Interview

“So, you have a lovely voice and you’re easy to listen to,” he said, leaning in close enough for her to smell the onions on his breath, “but you say ‘umm’ and awful lot.”

She sat up even straighter and nodded, arranging her face into the most innocuous expression she could manage.

“Thank you for that feedback. I’m always interested in improving myself.”Read More »


It is not my job to manage. It is my job to be present.

A healthy relationship is healthy for BOTH people in the relationship.

I can do my part to grow a healthy relationship by practicing honesty, integrity, vulnerability, and personal accountability.

Saying “no” is part of a healthy relationship. I cannot bring my best self to a relationship if I don’t know my limits or if I disregard my limits.

My relationship with myself includes watching for signs of exhaustion or stress and practicing thoughtful, balanced self-care.

Other people (may) need my honesty, compassion, patience, vulnerability, curiosity, and acceptance. They do not need my advice.

It is not my job to make sure other people take care of themselves. Everyone is responsible for their own self-care. This goes double for people who are struggling or in pain.

It is not my job to manage. It is my job to be present.